This morning I reaffirmed a boundary that had been steamrolled before I left on my trip.

It was something that had been eating at me, because it came from a close friend. But how close of a friend can one be if they disregard the only firm boundary I put in place?

I value her friendship, but not at the cost of being a doormat.

I thought that we could talk it through, but the more information I was sent the more it bothered me. So this morning I sent her a text explaining that we couldn’t continue these conversations.

The only thing that was asked for was clarity on if I meant that we couldn’t talk anymore or if we just couldn’t talk religion. I told her that we couldn’t talk religion any more. But what I didn’t tell her is that if she breaches that boundary again, I will not be talking to her anymore.

It felt good to follow my heart or gut, or whatever was agitated with the situation. The real test will be if I can uphold my boundary if/when it is tested again.

Tonight’s ruminations brought to you by my RELAX playlist on shuffle: