Monday 9/8
We were finally able to get to the bank together. We were able to remove his name from all of my accounts, and I was able to have our financial agreement notarized… which probably isn’t proper use of a notary but it was sufficient for my aim. We went out to dinner afterwards.
Some would say that I’m too nice, that I’m too soft. That I’m being too cordial. But I still have to live with him, and it doesn’t do any good for me to be an insufferable bitch. I may not be able to ensure a friendship remains, but I can at least be at peace with the effort I brought to the table.
…
Sunday 9/14
I had very little interaction with Joe this morning. I left around noon to attempt to mail some packages, but our the lobby of my local post office is closed on Sunday’s. So I just went to wait on an old friend I was meeting for coffee. And a couple of hours later I drove out to my sister’s. I won’t be home until Tuesday night.
…
Saturday 9/20
I was leaving to go make some donations with my mom and Joe came outside and practically jumped when he realized I was in the truck. We talked for a little bit. He informed me that he had told his mom about us being separated but living together. We talked about his mom saying that I’m still welcome at family gatherings, and our daughter too. He said his aunt cried about us being separated, and his mom advised that maybe some time down the road we might get back together… he and I both laughed about this because he told me she didn’t know the why of our separation. He asked if my sister and mother were staying away because of him, but my sister has been too busy to make it the 90 minute drive to visit and my mom still contemplates inviting him out to dinner when I’m otherwise engaged. He told me that he’s still willing to help my sister work on her son’s treehouse, and I told him that they might be coming out for Halloween. He confirmed his dates for Florida over Christmas, and he agreed to drive me to the airport the morning of my December flight.
So for today, things seem like they are pretty constructive.
I think he has finally realized that I’m not out to get him, I’m not trying to screw him over, and I’m not trying to take anything from him. In reality I’m trying to give him the freedom to find the relationship that he deserves, and the opportunity to grow.
The prospect of the 26th isn’t so daunting anymore.
We’ll see how that changes with time.
I also decided with my good friend Minx that it was time we brought back the Mistresses of Mayhem. We did a test broadcast today and it went pretty good. Still some kinks to work out but it will smooth out as we get back into the swing of things. So every Friday night we’re going to be broadcasting on iVlog for an hour or so. Could just be music and chat, we might do some gaming. If you’re looking for something to do at 9pm on a Friday… come hang out at From The Ashes. Fair warning, the site requires users to create an account to watch or interact with anything.
